Choosing the Maid of Honor can be one of the most difficult decisions a bride must make. There are so many women that have been a part of your life, how do you choose who it should be? No matter which amazing lady is awarded the role, your other frontrunners, and some people you may not have thought of, will probably feel slightly ill-used. There can only be one Maid of Honor; sisters, cousins, friends, and your mother know this. Be sure your choice is your own; do not let someone pressure you into choosing a person not on your list due to family politics.
Your mom should not expect to be your Maid of Honor. The mother of the bride has her own position of respect within the bridal party. Because it is your special day, if you wish to make your mother your Maid of Honor, you certainly can. Just remember that others might also be deserving of the role, and you will not be slighting your mom by allowing her to keep the title only she can have. Lets face it – your mum would be the worst person to plan your Hen party.
Sisters are sisters, and how many of them have gotten along throughout the majority of their lives? Your sister may be blood, but she may not be your best friend. Unless you and your sibling are inseparable best friends, consider looking for someone more unwavering to be your Maid of Honor. Friends are the likely choice, and many women are torn between childhood friends, college friends, current friends, and work friends. There is no equation to figure out who should be offered the position at your side. This is something only you can decide.
Friend For Ever
When looking for a Maid of Honor, look at the people who have stood the test of time. These may not be childhood friends; they may not be current friends. You want someone who has touched your life in a positive way; someone who you will always be bonded with regardless of distance or communication barriers. This person should know you better than you know yourself, and they should be humble about their ability to destroy you with that knowledge. Your Maid of Honor is the person who you would want to take your place at your husband’s side if something should happen to you. She is who you have decided is worthy, and you would not begrudge her anything, even your husband (as long as you’re dead!).
When you look at all these criteria for choosing your Maid of Honor, you may feel a bit overwhelmed at the selection process. The fact is, when you stick to such monumental reasons for bestowing a title on someone, you will have peace of mind when others feel rebuked.